You know girls I see so much mumbo gumbo about how we are suppose to be in our 50’s and look , act and most all talk about this with a spouse in tow. Well it is hard being out here alone in ones 50’s trying to survive in a whole knew world. If one was to truly believe in the words of Jesus you would know the time on this Earth is nearing to an end. As with all horrific storms and devastation in the world, you would think that our time was nearing. And I do put all my faith in Jesus he has blessed me so much and with that faith I am prepared for his return. With that said girls please take each day as it comes don’t sit and dwell is this our last day or you will drive yourself crazy. I love the fact that when I open my eyes each day that he has seen worth in me to have another day here on earth, and in that said it is up to me to make the best of my day and what happens is totally up to me. We are our own destiny and we make what happens in our lives and true sometimes we get a rock thrown our way and it may set us back. But get up and say thank you Jesus for I know you have a plan and this is just a bump in the road and a blessing is around the corner. You must work for what you get out of life, after being married so long I miss my simple life at times and even my ex and I know its just because that was habit and routine and face it it’s much easier if you are in what you know and feel secure in. I am not I chose to leave and I have had many hurdles along the way and I have prayed and have been so blessed. If I had stayed in my old life you would have never heard my voice, i would of never painted a painting and I would of never known that I could make it on my own with the help of Jesus. You are all special women out there and you have that inside you pull it out ask God to guide you. Never ever think you can’t make it because you can, we all can you have to want it. I have been off the Blog for awhile due to a lot going on in my life and to be honest I want to blog everyday and will try to get back on track. Please remember how important you are and remember to take a little time out for you each day, even if it is just 15 minutes it’s your time. And the 50’s thing well I can assure you I feel better now than when I was in my 20’s my body aches a lot more , I feel age has nothing to do with anything it’s just numbers. You are what is important and how you feel and your take on life being over 40 and divorced. If you are thinking about it and have not yet joined the single women think about it hard and always make sure it is your decision not someone pushing you. Divorce is hard it’s not an easy decision to make, and sometimes it’s so hard we just keep putting it off because it scares us as to where will I be. I am guilty of that and I finally did it but it was hard the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. And I sometimes regret because of my children it made things hard for them with his family. You must know you will be the one everyone blames if you leave so be prepared. And prepared for all inlaws to totally forget you even were ever there. I hold no bad feelings towards anyone I just want my children to be happy and treated normal they did not divorce him I did and somehow some people forget that. I am never alone I have all of you. Remember Blessings girls they are there for the asking take yours today. Bless all of you………

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Bathroom break is something as we as women rarely have to relish and I don’t mean running to the bathroom.

What I am talking about is it’s your day your time to have 30 minutes alone in the bathtub, bring a book,glass of wine and light some candles just to make it a softer calming mood.  And yes leave the phone in the other room tell the kids or family members excuse me but I’ll be back in about an hour or less.  And if you get a good 30 minutes of alone time to just unwind you have made your stress level just come down.  If you would like to listen to some great Miles Davis ooh I do  agree that would put you in another place for just a moment in time put oh how good you will feel.  You are moving constantly trying to do all things for everyone, making a living worry about your daily life  duties as a single mother or if your by yourself it still has the same effects of life getting overwhelming.  ”I can do all things thru him who strengthens me” philippians 4:13  And this is so true with all that comes down on you daily you can remember that because you can do all things thru him and as always I still stand strong on giving Jesus all the thanks for your blessings I say thank you Lord every day even if there is no Blessing had that day I thank him for making it thru the day that is your Blessing.  Share your blessings with others let them hear from you how you have been blessed it will help you.  And remember to take more alone Bathroom time for you , as you deserve it.  I know each day comes with knew struggles and problems that arise please understand I do know and I have been thru all that have been out there, without asking for Gods love and help,blessings have just come my way and when the really bad crashes down that you think you just can’t take another step believe me you can and it will make you stronger from it.  You are special you are important you matter to me and to the Lord Jesus and when all gets to be just too much stop take deep breaths and speak to our father and he will answer you , it may not be what you want right now you will be ok,  he will not forsake you.  I guess I just want to share today with you with take time for you but as always know where your blessings come from and always, always give Jesus the thanks for without him your blessings would not come.  And as I said it has been 6 years as of this month since I have been in my former security when I was married and you will question did I do the right thing or should I just stayed and continued whatever your life was that you could not take.  And I say to you it is normal to question and to feel insecure and maybe regrets, always remember you did make that move and change in your life it had to be so bad or something you needed or you would not have made that big step.  And it was a huge step, but your out here now and no feeling sorry for ourselves just hold strong have faith and watch your life begin to change for the better.  I hope your day is filled with love, happiness and love for you and your time alone relaxing in the tub, remember try to give yourself  at least 30 minutes of alone time to enjoy and I realize this is a hard thing to give to us.  You deserve it .  And if things just get so overwhelming remember where to go with your problems you will find peace.  You go and have a Blessed day.

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Hello and well my parents have been sick and had to leave town to care for them and they do not have internet service so I have been away from you all lately.  You know driving alone in your car gives you time to be thankful and time to stop and think about your life.  And well ya’ll I had to stop and look at myself on the trip there and back as it’s 2hrs of alone time.  And I began thanking Jesus for all the Blessings he has given me through the health of my parents to the miracle of my Bella she is now known to all as the Jesus Baby she belongs to him and lives and sleeps with me.  I just look at her with all glory and amazement that she was at deaths door and all your prayers and my Blessing from Jesus she is walking, barking and to all that never knew she was so ill can’t even tell.  It takes my breath away every time I look at her, and know how sick she was it’s real folks and if you don’t pray or know Jesus let me help you ask me and I will pray with you.  Remember he Loves us all the same and I am not special he will Bless you as well.  I just thank him daily and sit with my mouth wide open with amazement sometimes at how much he does Bless us all.  And as I drove home it grave me time to reflect on my life and everyone around me.  I know my children are my life and they are yours as well and when your alone and thinking about your life and maybe how you could make some things better, remember to not beat yourself up.  You are human and going through life alone is very hard and sometimes it does get overwhelming and sometimes the only alone time you have is when your driving from here to there.  Remember to Love yourself and do something for you for a change, we tend to forget ourselves as we try to carry the heavy load of caring for everyone else, we loose site on ourselves.  Take a nice long bath, go out to eat with a special friend , read a good book or just rest.  I know sometimes I just want to close my eyes and really not think of anything just be.   After having to worry how each day is going to go I think sometimes just that alone time of silence is a Blessing and a bit of peace.  And then life will come find you once again and everything starts all over again so take advantage anytime you get that Moment for You!!  And if there is something that you are wanting in your life Claim it in Jesus Name and it will come maybe not today but it will be yours.  My sisters never forget where your Blessings come from that is the secret always give thanks and Blessings will Flow and continue to come  in your life.  And as I leave you for the day remember Stop take a Moment for You.

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Remember all the things you have to do everyday,work,take care of your family and possibly going back to school on top of all that.  Somewhere along the way we tend to forget our needs and who we are and that You are Special Too.  In between all the care giving and trying just to survive in this world we live in today, and maybe you were  recently unemployed and now you have that extra worry on you besides all the other daily things you have already.

You Are You and in that I say You are Special and mean something and things should  not always be so overwhelming, I do understand that sometimes it’s more than you can take and maybe just taking the easy road out might be better for everyone.  No that’s not an option for us women we stand together and we unite and help each other out and with your love for your Faith you will make it through all things.  Even when it appears the end of the tunnel can’t be found believe me it’s there and you will make it, if you are thankful for all the things the Lord Blesses you with.

And I say with all the Love from within you are all Special and You are all very much individuals with your own talents and wisdom you share with your family daily.  It is hard being on your own in this world and now with the economy in the shape it’s in that’s  just another obstacle to overcome and you are strong you can prevail.

I came with only my children and the Lord Jesus in my heart and with his Blessings I have been able to be here today to show you how Important you all are to him and to your family, and how much you give to us all by being you.  So the next time you have your pitty party and you will remember you can make it and you are Special and You are You and with that said you ask for your Blessings and you give thanks and come back and tell me your special stories of how your Blessings helped you and always remember to give thanks to the Lord for all you have received and for what is coming your way.

Do something for you today, if it’s just 20 minutes alone in the tub listening to your favorite music with a nice glass of wine.  Have your Special time!!!!!

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As I have always told you all this is a day to day process never knowing what may be in the path for the next day or next trial.  We as single Divorced Women work so hard at out Families ,lives and trying to make a living to survive in this world of so many trials.  Well girls as you have noticed I have been off the Blog for a few days due to a family crisis once again, I am not  free of trials or pain.  My Baby Dog Bella has been so sick for over a week now with her pancreas and it has been touch and go I have had to put everything on hold as she needs my constant care 24 hrs a day we go daily for IVs at the vets office she gets loaded with meds and she still is not responding for get the cost which I can’t afford but will do without to pay to try to keep her alive that’s what we do as mothers ,we are the rock for everyone even our beloved pets.  So there was much more about seeking jobs working on you, preparing for your life alone, and taking what you know and have and making it.  We will get into that this week, But due to my crisis at home I ask for your Prayers For Bella a 7yr old Yorkie who looks like a baby fox hair as silky and shiny and black eyes to break your heart.  My baby is in so much pain I have prayed and ask all I know to pray for her recovery but I must be honest she’s touch and go and she is very weak today, I just pray she makes it through the night with your prayers it is possible.  I will be back on track as soon as I handle what you all will or may come across in the future and I will be here to uplift you as well. 

Reaching For The Faith

To believe in all that is in our hearts and holding on to Gods word don’t hold back as I have went through this

overwhelming time, my Faith has kept me strong, and i do cry constantly of the thoughts that she will not  make it I just continue to Reach out for my faith in the Lord Jesus and ask his Blessings to save her or to Bless her so she may wake up and be Bella again without pain, but I have to remember he may have decided that he wants her and I need to prepare myself, Ladies through all things may it be Family, friends or you loving Pet it is all the same constant prayer and Faith N Reaching out to Jesus for your faith is constant and he is always there.  All I can do is give it to the Lord and what ever his will I have to accept and go on, as you must do the same in your lives situations.

May you call out raise your hands give thanks and let the Lord know whatever his will we will have our Faith.

Ladies don’t hesitate to share your trials or ask questions and if I can help I will answer all questions or needs we are sisters of a situation, being we are now free and it may seen hard but you are strong you can make it, And I am here

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Each day comes  with more than we want at times, It may be a family crisis dealing with work or with your ex.  All days are not full all good things sometimes we have bumps in the road and  even larger ones at times, and when this occurs you don’t give up or feel you can’t get through the rest of the day.  But each day brings knew hurdles to jump over, and even though it’s so overwhelming you just keep on, and thank God for whatever he has for us to face each day.  I thank him each day for my Blessings and ask him to send whatever Blessings he has my way for the day and for my family to be blessed and send Angels around them and protect them.  Please remember no matter how hard you may work and how much time you give your children and if you are the only parent in the family, you are not a failure when things happen out of your control.  You loose your job, one of your children get in trouble with the Law, your family pulls away from you and your children and do not help with moral support.  Remember he is there with you Jesus he will help you through all things and sometimes it becomes so overwhelming you can’t even imagine ever seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, it will shine maybe not today or tomorrow but it will if you have faith and give God the thanks and continue to ask him to Bless you and your Family.  Life is not predictable if it were than we would all being doing great, it’s very  up in the air and we take each day one at a time and you cam make it.  And when it gets so overwhelming and you think you can’t breathe just stop take a moment and reflect and pray and ask for  help and he will be there and help you every step of the way.  And don’t think it will happen over night it sometimes takes time you didn’t get there over night so give it time it will work out.  I will not pretend and say it is easy being alone taking care of all the Bills, Children and problems that arise alone,  But hold on to your faith and your Blessings  Jesus is there give him the thanks and you will feel his arms around you and know you are not alone.  You can make it , just tell yourself each day I can make it, believe in yourself and have Faith and Love and remember your Joy just for you now and then you need some Joy.

We are all the same he does not Love me anymore than he Loves you so your Blessings are there for the asking and the thanking of them.  So go and be Blessed………..

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It is always important to get up look in the mirror and say Im gonna help someone today and hope for a Blessing ask for one and share it with others.  The main thing to achieve what you want in your life it to remember others put them first and your Blessing will flow.  Speak to the Lord daily it does not matter if you Say Thank you Jesus 10 times aday when ever you feel the  need.  He is always listening and you will receive your Blessings maybe not today or the next give it time it will come.  And never forget to help others along the way and share Gods word and how you fee.

I am who I am today a better person on this earth to help others and to do what he has in store for me, I am vessel and he sends Blessings where they are needed and I wait and am thankful.  You are the temple your Body treat it that way with love and respect and hold your head up high and you will see the way people treat you different, it is the confidence you carry through Gods Grace.  And remember your  Joy  you must decide on what your joy is.  Go and be BLessed in the name of the Lord and give him the thanks and be grateful, and you will see the change in your life and family life as well.

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In our daily  routines things become so overwhelming to the point be think we cannot take another step, but through your faith and belief in the Lord Jesus you can.  Through the Lord all things are possible even the most difficult that you feel you cannot ever recover.  I know I have been through all trials and Humilities that one could endure and think that I would never make it another day or even survive the pain.  But through the Lord and his Blessings you can too attain a feeling of peace within, and be able to help others when they are as low as you have been.  I thank  Jesus everyday for whatever his will is and for what Blessings he sends my way, and I have him with me when the bad things occur in my life as well.  You can start all over and make it on your own it is hard and it does not come easy there is work involved and you have to have faith constant faith and give the Lord the thanks for the Blessings he has given you.  I am not more special then anyone person out there and do believe me when I say I have had my share of humility and trials and pain.  What I have always had is my faith friends and family may leave you but I assure the Lord will never leave you alone to go through whatever you may have in your life.

“Trust in you unfailing love, my heart rejoices in your salvation.  I will sing to the Lord, for he has been good to me.” Psalms 13   5-6

And just when you think that you can’t continue he is there to take your hand and lead you through all trials that you are having.  Remember his love and Mercy you are protected through the Lord put your heart out there and open your mind and receive the Lord Jesus as he lifts you up.  Remember to give thanks always for your blessings and even when things are not as you wanted thank the Lord for being alive and in his grace.  He offers you a renewal everyday and thank him for the Blessings  he sends your way  open your heart receive the Joy you deserve happiness and good things take your Joy and embrace it.

You deserve your Joy and you need to take it and  not feel guilty as you deserve some Joy in your life and you need to grab it and take it, Jesus wants you to have Joy in your life.   And I always thank him for this Joy and my blessings he has provided for me and you.  I will show you how you can come from the darkest hole and loneliness one could be in.  And show you how the Lord Jesus will pull you out and Bless you just as he has done for me.  I can not tell you when and how long you may have to go through your pain I can tell you we are here to support you and to show the way out for you and your family through your  faith.  Thank you Jesus for all our Blessings today and all those all there in pain and sorrow and dealing in hard trials we are here for you and you will be Blessed.

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As you already know by now each day is a struggle of some sort with your children,job,family or just with life in general.  And I can assure you if I did not have my faith that the Lord was there to catch me each time I got weak I would have never made it these past 6 years.  I thank Jesus each and everyday for the Blessings he sends my way for I know without him I would be nothing and have nothing……  So I would say to you to keep your faith and always know that he will never forsake you, and I have wanted to give up before and tried but the Lord continues to send Blessings my way.  And I did and still have trials of problems that arise and I sometimes think how can I take one more thing I think I’m gonna just go crazy.  And with his grace another Blessing comes and he once again helps me deal with my problems.  So my heart felt prayer to you today is to say no matter what happens today I am going to face it no matter how hard it is and say thank you Jesus for Blessing me.  Just breathing is a Blessing.

“life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breaths away.”

You have faith and I will have something special to share tomorrow with you and if you want to share please do.

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There is nothing harder in this world to have to say I have failed at being married, and if you have children it is even harder to deal with.  The not knowing if your decision is the right one, will my children be ok if I go through this, will my family understand and the biggest one how will I make it alone.  Because you have been with someone for so long and in some cases dependent on everything in your life with that one person.   And in my case I stayed  much longer than I would have had it not been for the children, just being worried that they would not have everything they needed.  I was his personal slave I cleaned I cooked and even brought his food right to his chair and did whatever he ask of me, wee had no friends except his family he did not want outsiders in our life.  So what friend I did have they were as I called it day friends I only spoke to them or saw them during his working hours.  My ex never wanted to do things with the kids except punish he was up on that, he really did not get involved in their personal life’s outside the house.  He would not even attend church activities if they were not at our church.  I guess girls , what I am saying is I stayed with someone who never showed me or my children love or affection for over 20 years and I did hurt my children by staying.  Don’t stay because of the children it is sometimes much wiser to leave because of the children, they may not have everything material wise but the love and warmth that will radiate through your home when you leave will be the Blessing.  And what I have learned in the healing is if you ask God what is his will your life will change for the better.  He has so much Joy for you out there and for your children just say thank you Jesus for your blessings.   I know first hand and I want to guide you through the  rough times and please send stories of what you are dealing with or have been through, and how your children have  handled  everything.  Marriage is a work in progress everyday we all realize this but we need a partner to be apart of this on going process and to work with us not  pulling away in another direction.  I bear my share of the  fault of  my marriage turning into a divorce and I could still be there in my nice home doing everything the same as before and still be married.  In my case it took the Lord trying to show me for  years I needed to leave as it was not a healthy home for anyone of us, not my ex or my children.  And I was just to secure in my space not matter how unhappy I may have been I just could not see myself leaving my home.  I did share some of my most inner thoughts with my best friend and a lot of what I said was just out of pain unhappiness and she knew that she never took a lot of what I said serious.  But the Lord was there and he always says we need to have humility to come full circle and to be humble.  Well I certainly did I could not find an out in my eyes my daughter left for college my son was still at home

and I just gave up took an overdose and died twice, they put a tube down my throat to breathe for me and when I woke up it was the worst feeling ever, I was alive and laying with a tube in my throat and i could not move it hurt so bad tears rolled down my face.  I don’t  wish this on anyone nor to I think it’s the right thing to do.  From this came a long an ugly divorce  something I really never had the nerve to take those steps to do, it took a near death situation  to give me the strength to leave.  I must say to all who have not left or just now going through your divorce no one told me that if you leave your home it is considered abandonment in the state of  Misssissippi.  And when your Lawyers office ask you to make a list of everything you want out of the house for the judge to make the decision, take time try to remember all that is in your home and never assume your ex will give you things not on the list.  I did not have good direction on this and was blind and lost a lot of my personal things that my ex after 6yrs still will not give to my children to give to me.  And I am talking about things like pictures of my children from birth up until I left my high school year books scrap books paints ,paintings letters from friends and family clearly things that mean nothing to him, just something to hold over me.  After a long divorce  I now had to go to the Lawyers office to have him hand me barely nothing in money from my ex the long divorce ate up most of what I and my children were to receive from our home.  So now I was starting all over in a knew town with one child in college one in High School with  a physical disability and feeling so alone a if you think I wasn’t  scared your crazy.  I am telling you it’s normal to be so afraid your not sure if you can make another step, but with the help of the Lord through his grace and  Blessings you find the end of that dark tunnel.  I will be here every day to encourage you to help you and to show you that with hard work and and prayer and to give Jesus all to him for your Blessings I am here as proof you can survive and make it for you and your  children.  Every time I am blessed I stop and say  Thank You Jesus!!!!!!  For if you ask I promise you will receive he blesses all.  So stop and think if you have stayed home and have not worked in years ask yourself what skills to I have , what talents trades can I do.  If you are a college grad and have a great paying job I still encourage you to as for blessings and to give Jesus all the the thanks.  And as I told you before I was not perfect I made mistakes in my marriage as well, the difference is I care about my children and still continue to help them my ex remarried right away and has totally distanced himself from the children.  He never calls them, he never helps them financially or does he care how they are doing.  Our son needed and still needs a father but he just does not seem to think it is his place.  I want to share my case is rare not all men are this way most will work hard at making a good relationship with their children after a divorce this is just a rare situation.  And I must make it clear he was not in their life much when they lived with him.  I just thought he would embrace them and want to have a close relationship with them.  It has made a deep impact on my kids his distance and lack of showing any kind of love or even kindness towards them.  It was me who divorced him not the children they did not deserve any of the pain that has fallen on them.  As I leave for today I encourage you to share your stories ask questions.  And remember I am here with you and remember to whom all blessings come, thank you Jesus.  Just stop and write down your talents,skills things you have within you that will now help you survive.

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